Should you ask your partner's parents before proposing?
Discuss your partner's wishes before involving parents. Some people value a family conversation or blessing; others do not want permission sought on their behalf. The decision to marry belongs to the couple, and family traditions should not override your partner's preferences.
How can you ask about the tradition?
Talk about whether either of you wants family informed beforehand and what kind of conversation would feel respectful. Avoid assuming the same tradition applies to every family member or cultural background.
What should the conversation sound like?
If your partner welcomes it, describe your shared intention and ask for support rather than presenting them as someone whose choice can be transferred to you. Keep the details you share consistent with what your partner wants kept private.
What if family does not approve?
Do not turn the proposal into a public confrontation or surprise test of loyalty. Speak with your partner about the situation directly. Decide together how much involvement feels appropriate before proceeding with an event that includes family.
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